This post is focused on having high energy in your social interactions. But really, it’s a how-to guide for having high energy all day long.
And most don’t understand just how much power they hold.
They don’t realize their energy has a ripple effect on everyone around them.
But it’s true.
Each decision you make, from waking to sleeping, determines how you feel.
And that impacts, for good or bad, the people around you.
Hard Mode for Introverts
Having low energy before you socialize, if you’re an introvert, is like activating hard mode.
Socializing for long hours is draining enough. But when you pair that with being tired beforehand?—sound the alarm.
Side effects of being tired before you socialize include…
- being reactive
- prone to grumpiness
- muddy thinking
And the most detrimental side effect of all: Slipping into unconscious behavior.
Let me explain.
You might have had (or have) social anxiety.
When you’re low energy, around people, it becomes much easier to slip into unconscious behavior from your past.
- tripping over your words
- feeling self-conscious
- judgement and self-doubt
Staying in the Moment
The more conscious you areï¿½the less likely it is unconscious behavior will “leak” through.
Being conscious, though, is highly dependent on the circulation of blood to your pre-frontal cortex.
[The pre-frontal cortex] has been implicated in planning complex cognitive behavior, personality expression, decision making, and moderating social behaviour.
Most consciousness occurs in the PFC. But unfortunately, it’s the place that suffers first when your body doesn’t get the fuel it needs.
Older areas of your brain—the areas that regulate breathing and nervous responses—always get first helpings from your bloodstream. Thus if you decide to skip a meal, these areas don’t feel the impact.
Your PFC, on the other hand, does.
That’s why, to prevent yourself from slipping into unconscious behavior, you must become a master at…
Managing Your Energy
Everything is easier when you’re brimming with high energy.
But to have that high energy, you must keep the receptors in your brain happy.
Your brain makes up 1/50th of your body mass, yet consumes 1/5th of the calories you burn for energy.
While calories are important, they aren’t the only thing that affect your energy; there’s several other variables.
- Proper hydration
- Eating the right foods, at the right times
- Excellent sleeping conditions
- Cardio for blood circulation
- Eliminating energy obstacles
Water, as you already know, makes up the majority of your body’s composition.
And what’s more, it affects every process in your body.
Yet most people don’t understand just how critical proper hydration is. That’s why they walk around in a fog—because they don’t drink enough water.
To avoid that, I aim to drink, minimum, 1 gallon of water a day.
And because it’s the summer time in Arizona, I often drink 1.5-2 gallons of water.
The difference in my energy levels is palpable. My thinking is clear and my body feels great when I drink water consistently throughout the day.
As I’ve learned repeatedly…being hungry when socializing is a huge mistake.
That’s why I always eat before socializing or else I know I’m gonna get grumpy.
If I’m gonna be around people longer than a few hours I always bring a snack—something light like a protein bar, banana, or nuts—to keep my blood sugar levels stabilized.
And in my day-to-day life—I stick to whole foods as much as possible. Things like…
- sweet potatoes
These foods fuel your body and leave you feeling good hours after you eat them.
Being tired is just as detrimental as being hungry when socializing.
That’s why it’s smart to give sleep priority every night.
My sweet spot is 9 hours of sleep. And occasionally, if I need it, a nap in the afternoon.
But the time you sleep is only half the equation.
The other half is the quality of your sleep. Do you have the proper sleep environment for great sleep?
- blacked out room? (even small amounts of light can affect your sleep)
- cool sleeping temperatures? (anything over 75F and my sleep quality takes a hit)
- early bedtime? (the deepest and most regenerative sleep occurs between 10 p.m. â€“ 2 a.m.)
- watching TV, texting, or browsing the web before sleep? (these activities stimulate the brain—the opposite of what you want before sleep; best to read a book to wind down)
- sleeping without an alarm? (your body has natural sleep cycles; you don’t want to interrupt that cycle with an alarm)
Walking, biking, swimming, running—these activities are great, interspersed several times throughout the day, because they circulate more blood to your brain.
And depending on your line of work, cardio becomes even more important. If you sit in a chair for long hours—taking even a 5-minute walk can make a huge difference.
If that is the case, though, you’re body is stagnant most of the day—cardio becomes even more critical for priming yourself to socialize.
Even something as simple as a few sets of pushups beforehand can make a difference in how much blood gets circulated to your brain.
On the other hand, you have things that subtracts energy.
Avoidance, as much as possible, will make high energy a more consistent theme in your life.
- Alcohol (the body’s first priority is to remove poison—stopping other regenerative processes)
- Caffeine (too much caffeine, for me, causes a significant dip in energy several hours later; I stick to 1-2 cups of coffee a day)
- Sitting without breaks (after a few hours of sitting without breaks, my energy drops)
- Soul-sucking activities (job you hate, activities you don’t like; avoid as much as possible because energy follows enthusiasm)
- Negative energy (pessimistic people will bring you down if you hang around them long enough)
Energy Affects Everything
High energy is the catalyst to great performance for anything you do in life.
Life simply feels more worth living when you consistently feel like kicking ass every day.
And that’s what happens when you take control of your decisions every day.
You have more energy at your disposal to create the life you want.
And socializing becomes a lot more fun. It allows you to enjoy, rather than dread, your interactions with people.
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